Posts Tagged ‘LGBTQ’

Hypocracy

Written by Orchid on April 14th, 2014. Posted in Blog

“Straight people don’t get bullied for being straight.”

Oh yes they do. I have been mistreated, insulted, laughed at and so on by members of the LGBTQ community/individuals who identify as anything other than heterosexual on occasions when said individuals have assumed that I’m straight as well as when I’ve expressed that I identify as bisexual.

Women I’ve been attracted to who identify as gay/lesbian have told me they won’t sleep with me because I also sleep with men and that disgusts them and therefore I disgust them.

I have been told that I’m not really bisexual, I just say that I am because it’s trendy or because I want attention and so on. Really? Then I guess I can run around telling gay men that they shouldn’t make out in public because they’re obviously just doing it to get attention.

I have been told things along the lines of “Well you’re straight so you don’t belong in an establishment that caters to those of alternative sexuality.” I’m not straight but apparently because I’m a white female living in the United States it’s perfectly acceptable to assume I’m straight instead of asking me whether I am or not. Furthermore by being considered straight I’m told I’m “not worthy” of being in an LGBTQ establishment…how is this fair, mature, justifiable behavior?

Oh wait. It’s not. For fucks sake, pull your heads out of your asses and start paying some fucking attention.

I mean, must have missed the memo covering why identifying with any sexuality other than heterosexual makes your plights worse than those of other people and apparently also makes yours more valid. I suppose being a straight white woman who gets raped for any myriad of reasons makes her trauma less valid because she’s straight. Yea, totally missed that one.

Not that anyone gives a flying fuck of course. She probably deserves it because she’s so much more privileged than a gay man who is victimized for any reason.If the LGBTQ community really wants equal treatment they wouldn’t mistreat or disregard others lives and hardships when said others identify as heterosexual. They would say. “You were raped because your attacker said your outfit meant you were asking for it? I’m so sorry.” They would not say. “Oh you were raped? Well I was too but it was worse for me because I’m gay.”

But really, forgive me. Apparently straight people live in a magical land of lollipops and fairy tales. They never experience loss, grief, disrespect, mistreatment or any other such trauma and if they do it’s NEVER as bad as it is for someone who identifies as anything other than heterosexual. I had no idea that simply identifying as hetero immediately makes ones problems less significant.

Now, if you’re preparing to disagree with me or attempt to diminish my experiences in any way, why don’t you instead take that time to delete me and don’t ever again address me as a friend. I have zero tolerance for being disregarded simply because you think myself and others like me don’t have similar or comparable problems in comparison to whomever it is you think has it worse.

 

Gender Equality

Written by Orchid on August 19th, 2013. Posted in Blog

DISCLAIMER: This is all subject to my opinion and interpretations of what I see and experience. The statements here-in are not indefinite, infallible or absolute.

Watching Mona Lisa Smile. Contemplating the roles society continues to try and force men and women into and the unfair standards in place. Women must be intelligent, attractive, patient, yielding and sexually respectable while also being strong, independent and thick-skinned.

Men may philander and booze their way through life with little or no judgement from society. They do not have to answer for how many women they bed whereas women must answer for every notch on her bedpost regardless of what gender said bed partners are.

BUT: Men must have a car, a job and a financial plan for their future. They must be the bread-winners, the initiators and the leaders. They must help form and shape our society and protect it. As if our society really needed protection from itself.

If we as a society truly desire “gender equality” there are steps that must be taken. We need to stop focusing on what gender somebody is or identifies with. We also need to throw away everything we think we know in regard to what men should do and what women should do, and also what they, according to their gender, must absolutely not do.

(This blog originally written in spring 2013)

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